Build a Bridge

Author : Justin Herald
The other day I arranged to get our house sprayed for spiders. I hate the little buggers as they freak me out big time. The following day I went out to my driveway as I do every morning to retrieve my newspaper and I walked straight into a spider's web.
So here I was doing the spider's web dance, you know the one where you flap your arms around hysterically brushing every part of your body, trying to remove all traces of that web.
I came inside to sounds of loud laughter to find out that my entire family (if not the entire street) had been watching me go off in the front yard.
I explained to everyone there that I hated spiders as well as spider's webs to which my eldest daughter Jade says "just build a bridge dad and get over it".
Build a bridge! Here I was fighting for my life on my front lawn from a potential killer spider and she was telling me to get over it?
Well in reality, there wasn't even a spider in the web and even if there was the web was a tiny one which probably would have meant that the spider would have been small as well.So what is the point of that story I hear you ask. You see many of us go through life just doing what we do and doing it well. Then at some point in time we may run into something that either affects us in a negative way or upsets us. This is where "choice" comes in to the equation. We all have a choice as to how we react and handle situations. You can either run around (figuratively speaking) going off, flapping your arms around, telling anyone who is unfortunate enough to be within earshot of you about how hard done by you have been, why it isn't fair that the situation has happened to you or why you are the unluckiest person on the planet due to the amount of misery your life has produced or you can build a bridge and get over your issues. You see to be honest most "issues" we all have really aren't that big or damaging. We just blow them way out of proportion all due to us focusing on them so much and building them up to be bigger that they really are.What we all need to do when overcoming our issues or problems is as I just said. We need to build a bridge and get over them. But what we then need to do is go back and destroy that bridge so as we don't constantly go backwards and forwards from our future to our past issues. I have met a lot of people who just don't want to let go of their past issues as they feel as though everything they have done in life (good and bad) makes them who they are today. That is so sad, as life is all about becoming better and overcoming our faults. They end up living a life filled with regret as they never seem to move on from past disappointments. I have passed on things in my passed that sometimes I look back as wish that I didn't, but in reality I cannot change anything about what has already happened.I do not believe in regrets. Focusing on regrets forces us to live in the past. As I just said, I have been offered many opportunities that I have chosen to pass on. Some of those opportunities have gone on to be major successes. Some have gone on to fall in a big heap. If I was to live my life regretting all the things that could have been, I would just be torturing myself and making everyone around me miserable. You will never see the opportunities in front of you if you are looking back and reflecting on what is behind you.
So this week find an issue or an attitude and build a bridge and get over it. If it is an issue that has been plaguing you for a while, go back and destroy that bridge so as you won't revisit that issue again. Life is too short to constantly battle the same problems.Justin Herald is Australia's most sought after motivation speaker. At the age of 25 he started a business with only $50 and turned that into a $20 million business within 6 years. He is an International best selling author of 5 books, his latest "Prosperity on Purpose reached the best sellers list within 6 days.
His website, www.justinherald.com receives over 30,000 a day.
Keyword : motivation, success, persistence